Tips on Doing The Work of Byron KatieA collection of tips and insights on the practice of The Work
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How to Apply Insights from The Work of Byron Katie in Real Life
Many people assume that once they’ve had an insight through The Work, they need to _apply it_ — remind themselves, act differently, or make an effort to change. But true insights don’t need effort. In this video, I explore why real transformation happens naturally—not by trying to apply the insight, but by seeing through the beliefs that kept you stuck in the first place.
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Q&A on The Work: Turnarounds, Shoulds & Suffering
In this concluding Q&A of the series, Radu and I navigate the intricacies of finding examples of turnarounds, delve into the profound understanding that everything is done with a positive intention, and explore the intriguing question: Is Self Inquiry truly the culmination of an end to all suffering? (Christmas 2023 - Advent Gift)
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Q&A on The Work: Worksheets, Triggers & Taking Action
In this Q&A, Radu and I explore why it is so significant to work from specific situations, uncover practical insights on how best to utilize the Judge Your Neighbor Worksheet, discuss how The Work changes as you gain more experience, and what to do with the compelling desire to 'do something' with what we discover in our Work - and why that is not the point. (Christmas 2023 - Advent Gift)
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Q&A on The Work: What is Self Inquiry?
In this Q&A, Radu and I delve into the fundamental aspects of self-inquiry. Among other things, we discuss the essence of self-inquiry, distinguish its nuances from traditional therapy, and unravel the mechanics of how self-inquiry truly operates. (Christmas 2023 - Advent Gift)
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Personal Meditations with Ernest Holm Svendsen
In this interview for Diving In with Gabriel Hougher, Garbiel and I discuss self-inquiry in generel and "The Work of Byron Katie" in particular.
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How to Live In The Moment
I contributed as an expert source in this article in Avocado Magazine about the health benefits of living in the moment.
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How to work with Question 1 and 2
Question 1 and 2 of The Work are deceptively simple, but they actually hold the key to the entire process. In this video, I introduce some important distinctions between the two questions and offer my take on how to answer them in the most impactful way.
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The Inquiry of Byron Katie and Cognitive Restructuring
A friend sent med this article about the difference between The Work and Cognitive Therapy which in my experience touches on exactly the right points.
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What To Do When The Work Stops Working
It seems that for many of us there is a point on our journey with inquiry when it suddenly feels like The Work has stopped working. In my experience though, it is not so much that anything has stopped working. It is simply that The Work has begun inviting us into a deeper place. In this video I give my take on what is actually going on when we hit this point, and I share my input on what to do to move through it.
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Mundekulla Live: The Work of Byron Katie
After a retreat at the wonderful Mundekulla Retreat Center in Sweden, I did this interview about The Work, including a brief demonstration of the process.
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A Wonderful Chaos: Self Inquiry
I was one A Wonderful Chaos doing this interview about Self Inquiry and The Work. It was a bit of a wild ride :o)
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Q&A with Jacqueline Green
Following up on my participation in The Great Parenting Show where I had been sharing The Work, Jacqueline Green did this Q&A with me with questions from the audience.
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Using Turnarounds as Pointers to Experience
With the structured focus on coming up with at least three examples of turnarounds when doing The Work, it is very easy to miss a crucial element in the process: that turnarounds are intended as pointers to an experience, not as an intellectual exercise where we tick things off on a list. In this video I explain how to go about the turnarounds in a way that allows for a much greater impact in your inquiry.
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The Three Kinds of Business
The three kinds of business is a great concept often associated with The Work. But what does it actually mean to be (and NOT to be) in someone else's business? And as a parent - don't you have to be in your children's business sometimes? (Spoiler alert: Nope)
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The Work is a Meditation
One of the most important things to understand about The Work of Byron Katie is that in essense, the process is a meditation.
In this video I explain why that is so and what that means for the way we can best approach it. |
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Tips for facilitators - free book by Chana Mason
Good news: Your emotions are caused by passing thoughts.
Great News: You are not your thoughts. Fantastic News: You can learn how to effectively question your thoughts and free your mind. This fun-to-read book is packed with tools to help you:
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How to Work with Facts
When doing The Work of Byron Katie, facts can be tricky to work with sometimes. Especially when we get to the turnarounds, it can be difficult for our minds to find their way through to some genuine examples.
In this video I explain how to handle facts in The Work by shifting attention from the facts themselves to the underlying beliefs that are the real cause of our problems. The method? The "and it means"-list! |
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Doing The Work with a Motive
One of the topics that are sometimes up for discussion is the matter of doing The Work of Byron Katie with a motive. You are not supposed to do The Work with a motive, but what does that actually mean?
In this video I discuss the issue of working with a motive and offer an approach for dealing with the situations when we notice we are driven by a desire for a specific outcome. |
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It's About Right and Wrong
When doing The Work of Byron Katie, it can be very useful to keep an eye out for the underlying belief "it's about right and wrong". This belief often operates in the background and can have a huge impact on the situations we're working with.
In this video I share how to use your attention on this belief to open new avenues in your Work, both when you're facilitating others and when you facilitate yourself. |
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Doing The Work on a Choice or Decision
Sometimes we feel caught in a situation where we have to make a choice and all our hopes and fears are clouding our judgement. It would be nice to be able to clear the mind in those situations, but how can we use The Work to do that?
In this video I present a specific method for using The Work to support ourselves in making a decision when we are at sixes and sevens. |
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Doing The Work on Yourself
One of the questions that keep showing up in people's practice of The Work has to do with the challenges of working with judgements on ourselves.
In this video I share my perspective and offer a specific approach for those times when we run into regrets or attacks on ourselves and need a method for handling them using The Work. |
